Decisions Decisions

by LesleyG on January 23, 2013

It is true. We know this, right? We have for a while. Knew it before we realized we knew it, in fact. The one real and true obligation we have is to be true to ourselves. To say Yes and No and Maybe with the freedom of knowing that we’re capable of deciding what the right answer is, as long as we use them all about equally.

I spend a lot of time deciding things. Or, this is what I have told myself. I am indecisive or careful or… whatever. Afraid? Probably. Which is what led to my one goal this year, to do the things I fear. Many times, those are just decisions. And more often than not, it is a decision I had previously told myself I didn’t want to make. I guess that allowed me to avoid it? Yes. Avoiding. That is always the best way to get what you want, no? You can see where I was hitting speed bumps.

But somehow recently I have been making decisions in a way I haven’t before. There are a lot of ways to put it, but what it comes down to is that I am believing in my decisions more. I am in love with every decision I make, I guess. I mean, the little stuff, you guys, because that is how we practice, right? We start out holding onto the wall before we push off and let the skates carry us. So, when I decide to do even something small, and I am in love with that something small, I know it’s practice. It’s building my confidence. And it’s never as tough to make that next step after you practice than if you hadn’t at all.

Sitting here, before I wrote this, it dawned on me: I love to make decisions now. I love the Yes, the No, the HELL YES, and the HELL NO (and the Maybe). It may sound silly but the concept that I have a choice in making my decisions at all is far from lost on me. It is a gift that many never get. And that is thrilling. So why not be in love with it? Why not commit myself to practice? Why not decide so hard and love it so much that it is so powerful that it is an act of honor to anywhere else in the world where deciding is not possible? Then every doubt and opinion and critic simply fades away.

That is how I want to use this gift. Whether I am holding onto the railing or skating right out into the middle of the ice, no matter who may be watching and how impossible it may seem, I am going to love it.

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Mel Heth January 24, 2013 at 12:24 am

Practice makes perfect, right? :) I love this metaphor: “We start out holding onto the wall before we push off and let the skates carry us.” So spot on. I also couldn’t help but think of Charlotte from Sex and the City yelling “I choose my choice!”

When a particular decision feels scary, I’ve learned that a great way to think about whether or not you should go for it is to imagine you’re standing on a high-dive board. If the water (aka decision) below feels clear and inviting – and you’re just kind of scared to make the jump – you should dive in. If the water feels like a murky swamp, don’t jump. I’ve found this so useful in assessing situations.

I’m adding the skating rink to my list now, too.

barbara January 24, 2013 at 8:40 am

I have to admit I had to cringe a bit, as I saw myself in this. Decision-making has often been tough for me. Needing to know every detail before deciding, just in case I miss some point that may affect my decision has hamstrung me more times than I care to admit. I need to rethink my methods, I think.

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks January 24, 2013 at 9:30 am

You are so right that the position of getting to make a decision at all is one that not everyone gets, so why not dive in head first and be fully committed?!? Can’t wait to hear more…

sizzle January 30, 2013 at 11:36 am

You’re so full of brilliance. I love this. :-)

The Exception January 30, 2013 at 4:23 pm

The challenge I have with decisions is the realization that to make this decision means that all the doors that come with it close; I get that others open, but I have an awareness of the unknown that I am leaving behind. But yes, embrace decisions! I love this. I often remind my daughter that we can’t go back but we can always make a new choice… decisions are fabulous. I add this for the fun of it: No Mud; No Lotus.

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